Some Principles For Better Listening..

Listening is not just passive hearing.It is an active,participating experience in which you pay genuine attention to what the other person is saying.
Here are some principles that should help someone become a better listener:
Don't grab the conversation with,"Yes,now take me,for instance,'' or,"yeah,now here's how i see it."
Don't let your gaze wander from the other person's face except momentarily.Give your undivided attention.
Vadilate the feelings of the other.This calls for something like,"yes,I see what you mean."or"I can see why you would feel that way."or"that must have been a great experience..
Don't interupt.
Don't try to top the other person's story or joke.When someone is telling an anecdote,don't let your mind wander to one u can tell..When you do,your eyes glaze over and your attention wanders.You become self-centered instead of an active listener..
Don't critisize.You may be attacking the other person 's best friend,religious convictions,or political party.
Ask appropriate questions:"What happened then?''Or "How did you feel?"
Don't argue!!Arguments seldom settle anything,and they make another person defensive and even more argumentative..Am I right??Think Twice....If you ask your opinion ,state it,if it seems important.But let it lie there.Don't make a debate out of the conversation.This is not being mealymouthed or weak and spineless..It is simple common sence....